I struggled to find the difference between the two until my friend K, cited some references from the men we dated.
We question our life choices and always joked that we can write a book just on our dating history when we are together.
In summary and translated very loosely, if he has money, he’s a player. If he doesn’t, he’s a scum.
K started seeing an ex and broke up with him again. Somehow the flame reignited after 13 years and then distinguished (hopefully for good) this time after finding out he has been cheating on her on multiple occasions.
Checking in to budget hotel with another women after video calling your girlfriend, scum.
Using money your girlfriend saved and checking into budget hotel with another woman, scum.
Letting your girlfriend go for abortion and also pay for the procedure (13 years ago) because you are not ready for that responsibility, scum.
We all have that attractive kind hearted friend like K who suck in their choice of partner.
Maybe the sex was really good but nobody deserved to be cheated on no matter how good the sex is.
When affairs of the heart is concerned, I always believe you can give it all, but know your limits, learn to protect yourself and know when to walk away. If in doubt, don’t give anything.
I’ve walked away from scums and players on many occasions too. I still feel a tinge of sadness when I think about him (Best sex but worst itch ever).
Bringing a woman out for diner at nice quiet places only, player.
Chauffeuring her everywhere in your Audi but not meeting her friends, player.
Bringing a woman back to your condo and never letting her sleepover, player.
I didn’t need courage to walk away after finding make up remover at his place. I am not an option. I just love myself too much to deal with this shit.
Memoirs of a Singapore Auntie 新阿姨传记 