I decided I am going to keep my big mouth shut and not share my holiday plans in advance from now on.

I seemed to be the go to person for holiday ideas in my circle.

Before I met my husband and scooting off to Bhutan for our honeymoon, I mentioned to my gay best friend that I wanted to visit the place someday. Soon, I saw pictures of him and his partner in Bhutan.

During the down period last year and having too much time with nothing to do, I told my colleague I would love to visit Siem Riep again in the coming years as I cannot forget the beauty and charm of trees intertwined with temples within Angkor Thom compound. This colleague booked a solo trip soon after.

Early this year while planning short trips for June school holiday, I asked a friend to come along with her two young children as it will be fun for my son to have other kids to play with.

She declined a week later citing traffic jam during the long weekend and her husband does not want to pay premium.

Can you imagine how sour I felt after I saw updates of her visiting the destination a week before me.

I completely understand the traffic and budget constraints but same destination, same hotel and same activities. Seriously?

I don’t own the place so I don’t have the right to stop anyone from visiting. I felt childish and thought I am too sensitive and petty.

It hurts to think that is not that she doesn’t want to go. It is just that she doesn’t want to go with me. Sad.

I thought she is my friend and friends take care of each others’ feelings.

Every time she asked me to ask her along for something, she will somehow reject. Budget is always at the tip of her tongue. I am glad all that saved budget goes to her holidays in Japan and South Korea.

I don’t know about you but I do make an effort not to visit or do anything remotely the same if someone tells me their plan. I don’t want to be called a copycat.

In the above cases, none of them are because they did it first. Argh… The Preemters.