快点嫁 (get married fast)

快点搬出去（move out fast)

That was how I was given pressure to get married so I can move out.

In Singapore, most of us only move out after getting married. Marriage was an escape.

妈妈，我结了两次都不太好。你为什么你一直叫我结婚？

I wished I have the courage to ask my mother why she kept asking me to get married when she made out her own to be so miserable. My dad was made out to be a MCP and poor af in the first 10 years of marriage.

Any MCP would be deeply humbled after four female offspring’s and my parents are living off rental income from their second property on top of pension and investments and savings so yeah, what a failure their lives are.

Recently, her stand slowly changed to just date, no need to get married.

“Look at cousin so and so, go holiday, go Pak tor (dating) happy can already,” she commented.

Yah lor, 结婚有什么好？你为什么一直叫我们结婚？

“So and so dated for 13 years and they are still not married,” she commented.

Hello, they met when they were only 17! They happy can already so what’s the issue?

At this day and age, marriage is no longer a necessity especially when women have the means to support themselves.

Why did I get married the second time?

If men think with their dick, I probably think with my puss. Finally a lot of good sex, NOT.

Dating period was the best stage in any of my relationships.

The only justification was I wanted my own children and I did not want to have them out of wedlock. Singapore is not friendly to unwed women.

My child brought me lots of joy but I can’t say the same for my marriages.

If I can choose again, I don’t think I want to get married and have a child again.

I will just concentrate on my career, date and fuck whoever I fancy and may the guys’ age remain.

Hey elders, let people be lah. There are no benefits for a Singaporean woman to get married.

You can look after so many kids without domestic help in the past because you don’t need to work.

We still have to slog at work, play office politics, split household expenses, do the chores, be filial and take care of both sets of parents, look after kids that don’t even carry our last name and sometimes don’t even look like us.

Get married to suffer? You better think twice before you give any engagement to get married.