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Adult, complain, Housing, Relationship, Thoughts, Work

Stress About Money

Just when I haven’t fully gotten over the husband giving away half an apartment, he’s at it annoying me again.

This time he made a purchase of almost 200K on a new car.

I know he has a stable job but I think he is secretly rich and has money stashed somewhere without my knowledge to be so spent thrift.

Maybe he received a hefty inheritance from my in laws.

Why am I saving pennies when he is spending money like water?

Renovation for my new place finally started and I see light at the end of the tunnel. Finally the husband can stop asking me if the contractor I engaged is legit and if we will lose our deposit. Why did I take the initiative to do anything? Shouldn’t this be a man’s responsibility?

Have I attempted to do some retail therapy. Not really but I booked a business cum birthday trip with my business partner to Bangkok in two months time.

Massages? Just finishing up the shoulder and neck package near office since I am changing job soon. My back and waist aches from the neglect.

Yesterday, I took a two hour nap after lunch while working from home, since it was a quiet day. I felt better but still lethargic and slept early at night.

Guilty? Yes but I better enjoy this before I start my new job since I will no longer have work from home days.

I already had two holidays this year but I still felt like I never went on any to truly enjoy it. One was to Sweden to visit my sister going through her own trauma and the other to Bali where I brought my sister in law to check out an investment property.

I have an upcoming family trip with my dad to visit his hometown in China. Just like the cruise last year, before we started the holiday, I’ve already spent more than 5K chipping in to prepare for rituals and welcome red packets for relatives. The whole village are relatives. WTH. I’m already exhausted thinking about it.

Sigh… The pros and cons of having educated ancestors where they documented 17 generations.

All these this stress about money…

No wonder I had been feeling down recently and unable to lift my mood despite attempts to sleep, exercise and eat right. These episodes are not helping.

“Are you ok?” The husband asked.

“I am not ok,” I responded.

He went back to dooms scrolling. End of conversation.

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Adult, complain, Housing, Investment, Money, Relationship, Thoughts

Half an Apartment

“Have you settled your parent’s place with your (elder) sister?” I asked the husband.

They should have gotten it settled since both the in laws passed away sometime back.

“Last step, need to go down to the lawyer,” he said, “Sis will continue staying there.”

“Great. She has been staying there for so long. Makes sense. Since she is taking possession of the place, does it mean you are selling your half to her,” I asked.

“No. I’m giving her everything,” he said.

I was stunned for a while.

“What if she gets married? Your half is gone you know,” I said.

“It is impossible! Everything will come to our son lah.” He said.

“You better hope she doesn’t get married or her money scammed by some other people in the next 40 years, If she falls sick, don’t expect me to help you foot her medical bills.” I said.

After I sorted out my thoughts, I asked him why he kept stressing me to keep looking for a higher paying job to fill in the income gap while he can career transit with a pay cut but yet he can be so generous in giving away half an apartment.

I reminded him my health is not good and should not be working so hard in the first place.

Plus he always commented our son is unlucky to have to look after three adults. I am sure both of them have ample funds to look after themselves and there will not be any expectations for my son to look after anyone.

Why is the husband not taking care of his own family? Me and his son.

Why am I saving every penny but while he can be so generous and give away half an apartment?

What made my blood boil was my sister in law asking me which property can she invest in since she is getting her graduaty of 100K soon and she have spare funds (I am sure it is savings from the free 50 per cent from her brother).

The more I thought of it, the more upset I got. Since our almost divorce episode, he has no access to money but an allowance and credit card.

Maybe he did it on purpose, quipped my mum.

This is not making me feel any better so I decided I should not be short changing myself and trying to save every penny don our new place anymore.

The floor is rough? Just get grouting done.

This needs painting? Sure, just do it.

What is a few hundreds and thousands compare to a half an apartment right?

Next, maybe I should quit my job, go shopping and enjoy life since I have a generous husband who can give away half an apartment freely. He must be loaded.

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Adult, complain, Housing, life, Money, Thoughts, Work

Offload

I finally completed my course last weekend and I am currently working from home at my pending renovation and unfurnished new place.

Offloading the weight I put on myself item by item. Once this renovation ends and after moving it, I will have less on my plate.

Piece by piece, item by item, shelf by shelf, the progress seemed to be so slooooooow.

Contractor not volunteering information, ID slow, PE on holiday. Hello, not my problem ok.

They are so slow that I started to wonder if they are legit at all and if they will disappear with my deposit. I hope not since the person I liaise with is my friend’s husband.

Some neighbours shifted in, most are doing their renovation. The main contractor of the estate panicked and came to inspect my unit because my neighbour had hacked their structural wall. Well done…

Work has not slowed down and being dumped with a big client by school holiday MC queen. I find myself lacking the time and energy to apply for a new job.

Why does she have less while I have more?

Maybe it is a strategy: Make employees so busy that they don’t have time to look elsewhere.

Nice to know early this week that the vase at work tendered and was put on garden leave immediately. No difference to me since I am already doing her stuff.

I am getting so sick of picking up after those underperforming people and managing the travel logistics of other people that I felt like quitting every time I was asked to do something. I felt like a training logistics whore.

I asked my business partner if we have enough work for me to manage the business full time? Not at the moment but maybe it will come.

Maybe I can do delivery with real estate and the business. Then, I thought I will be worried about retirement funds again if I stop being an employee again. Maybe three times is the charm?

It is Q4 now and I felt like I needed a break but the next big family holiday two months away and two months is a looooong time.

I did not have the mood to start any new task and I am just mindless scrolling through social media during working hours and being unproductive.

Even writing this post required effort but writing is not a chore. It is my hobby.

Maybe I need to get things off my mind to proceed and work on the next thing.

How and what do I need to do to get myself motivated and hungry?

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