Adult, complain, Housing, Kids, Learning, life, Money, Relationship, Thoughts, Work

Election Season

Election is here!

First thing that came to my mind when I got to know the election date was, “Damn, it is the day I return to Singapore from a long awaited girls trip.”

Can I make it back in time? Hence, my friend and I made the decision to book earlier bus tickets back to Singapore.

Politics in Singapore is boring but I still want to vote.

The ruling party will continue winning the majority seats in parliament but I still want to vote.

The opposition in my ward really CMI to the point that they might as well walkover but I still want to vote.

I missed the bulk of the rally last night because I was in a call with classmates for my school work. Normally, I will be at the opposition rally during election time. It’s fun.

It is the only time we dare to criticise the government openly.

If I hadn’t misbehaved in the past and left negative trails in my private life, I might have joined the opposition.

Then again, I wouldn’t like the attention and I won’t like dealing with keyboard warriors so I respect and applaud everyone who is in the public eye for politics.

To my future Members of Parliament

As your middle income Singapore auntie, housing, education, jobs are my main concerns.

Housing

When it comes to housing, who would have predicted that it will inflate so much that new public housing can cost more than half a million dollars. Irony is, it is only yours for 99 years because you never truly own it.

That is the affordable, they said. If you need to use 25 years to pay off something, it is not affordable.

Now that I am a parent, I worry for my child if he can get his own place to start a family in future. I started putting money into his CPF to compound interest because I don’t want him to lose out. It may still not be enough but 不要输在起跑点。

Education

Somebody realised the system of placing emphasis on academics is not for everybody along the way. Plus, the piece of paper is not a guarantee of success and most importantly, job security. I appreciate that we have initiatives to push out upskilling and subsidies for adult learning. More if you are above 40 like me.

Not faring too badly too badly in education, but I still don’t understand why my 5 year old child has homework every weekend. I would prefer to bring my kid outdoors.

Fact is, we have too many educated people working in office, then we have to import labour for other industries, leading to influx of immigration impacting housing, food and schools. The vicious cycle continues.

Jobs

Gone are the days where people hold one job for life. Schools have to churn out the right people for the right job. There are so many choices now.

After going through a retrenchment cycle, I can only say that it is not that people don’t want to stay but the companies can’t guarantee jobs for life. Don’t blame the generation. Loyalty goes both ways.

It is not just having jobs. Better quality, better paying jobs and also job stability.

Is increasing the population through importing foreign labour the only way for growth? What is the proportion of Singaporeans, foreign labour to growth? What about better quality jobs that doesn’t require manual labour?

I love my country but it is getting too crowded and I can’t breathe and I struggle to find space sometimes.

Whichever party it is, please make Singapore a better place for us.

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Adult, kids, Kids, Relationship, Travel, Work

FOMO – June School Hols

June is the school holiday season and there are visibly more children walking around in the day and less prams and strollers parked at the school.

There are also a lot more photo updates on Facebook showing family vacations and I started wondering why I did not think of doing a long holiday this month.

What if my child’s classmates start telling him about their holidays and he might feel left out.

FOMO.

I felt like I am missing out on things and I started scrolling for holiday destinations while telling myself my short trip is coming soon.

I always say I wanted to visit Europe again to see friends and family and the plan always somehow vanished after looking at the price of air tickets.

Work schedule is not an easy thing to handle and I go back to planning short trips to Malaysia instead.

Somehow I never felt like I had a holiday after visiting Malaysia. Feels too much like home.

Then, the expat wives at my estate kept asking me out on play dates during the week and they were surprised when I tell them the government child care my child attends does not have school holidays for pre-schoolers.

Our government pretty much made it easier for working mums with young children from dropping out of the workforce.

I really don’t know what I can do when my child starts getting school holidays and when I still have to juggle work.

Even though it is the school holiday, there are still activities from the school I have to complete with my child again. Help!

At what age can schools stop asking us to do our children’s homework? Are they not meant to be taught independence and do it by themselves?

Many will tell me this will pass so enjoy it while it lasts. Argh.. I know but you understand how annoying this can be right?

June school holidays will be around for the next 15 years for me. Maybe I should start planning for next year and then the following 14 years so don’t miss anything out…

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Adult, complain, Culture, kids, Kids, life, Relationship, Thoughts

Letter to My Son 01: Don’t Let Bullies Win

Dear Son

I should have written more letters to you.

The first was Thank You Baby when you were 7 weeks old.

You will be turning four in a few months time. How much you have grown in the few short years.

People think you are much older because of your height. You have to live with this for the rest of your life. Learn to accept this.

You look very much like your dad but you definitely have my eyes.

It’s funny when you start a staring match with me. I felt like looking through my own eyes. 为什么你拿我的眼睛瞪我?(Why do you stare at me with my eyes?)

Please take care of your eyes. Other mummies were mesmerised by them. It will be girls your age soon.

Your teacher’s commented you always repeat after them and remind other kids not to misbehave. Some call it leadership qualities but 长大了小心给人打(beware someone may beat you up when you are older).

Seeing how other children follow you around and how gentle to are to younger kids. I am heartened to know you have a kind heart.

Although you know how to share and allow others to have your toys, please learn to get back what belongs to you in future.

An older girl pushed you very hard at the indoor playground last time. Sigh… Why do you always get bullied by girls? (I Screamed)

I tried not to interfere when she screamed at you but I couldn’t control when she pushed you. You were not the first she did that to so I told her parents and I told off her parents too.

I will whack you if you do that to other kids. Thankfully you did not give me such a problem.

Your grandmother, my mother taught me when I entered school, “人家打你,你打回他更大力。” (Hit back harder when others hit you.)

Your mother says, “人家打你,你不只打回他更大力。哭得还要比他大声。” (Not only do you hit back harder when others hit you. Cry louder too.)

Don’t let bullies win.

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