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Adult, Friends, Learning, Relationship, Thoughts

That Friend 13.2: 十三天老板

Read part one for back story.

It was during the holiday weekend and the kiddo has no lessons. Since we had all the time in the world, we decided to venture into a pet cafe.

She was sitting in a corner and disappeared right after we entered. I think I saw her but not quite sure so I asked her colleague who greeted us.

Then I held my son’s hand and said very loudly, “Let’s say hi to auntie. She visited our place when you were young.”

She came out with smiles all over and told me she’s working at the cafe part time. Volunteering the information even though I did not ask.

I hoped it was her cafe and I will try to be genuinely happy for her after we parted ways.

Then, she messaged me after that thanking me for not sharing with others she is working at the cafe.

The messages got more frequent which I tried not to respond immediately. Same thing, topics always revolved around other people.

Just a few days back, she asked me out for coffee or if she can visit me at my place.

Red flags. Alarm bells. I was screaming NOOOOOOOO in my head.

Deja Vu. This was exactly what happened before I registered the company with her last year.

A sudden surge of friendliness and then outburst. I don’t have the need for another insurance policy or capacity to deal with emotions at this stage in my life besides my son’s.

“I wanted to ask about property,” she said.

“IC,” I replied and left it as it is.

I wanted to add, “Hope you get the answers to your questions,” but I did not because it will give an opportunity to continue follow up conversations.

All the messages were sent via messenger. I guess she is still offended by my so call business number on WhatsApp…

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Adult, complain, Culture, Friends, Relationship, Thoughts, Travel

Mummy’s Social Burnt Out

Recently my mummy group clique has been more active than the past three years combined.

I try my best to attend play dates because I want my only child to play with other children his age.

From twice a year meetups, it has increased to bi-monthly. I’m getting a little scared and tired of the frequent social gatherings.

Now that the kids are older, every time someone suggest to meet, it will be Hai Di Lao, indoor playground or across the border in Johor Bahru.

It is fine if we go separately and meet at the destination but some take the initiative to plan transport for all families with no private transport.

Once or twice is fine but not every time. May I remind you all we don’t stay in the same area? I do remind and cook some excuse because my place to theirs is easily 45 minutes away and I have to depart from different causeway.

My idea of play date in Johor is Legoland, Danga Bay amusement park and indoor playgrounds as wet weather plan. Not walking around in malls. I really don’t understand some Singaporeans.

We went such trips to Johor twice in the past month and I felt so unproductive. No time for groceries run and it is always a waiting game. Add 20 minutes to the supposedly meeting time. Frustrating to the point that we returned with no other families the next week.

Maybe I need to chill and cut others some slack since I only have one child. Of all people, I should understand that nothing ever go according to plan when a child is involved.

Then, I mentioned I made plans to visit a beach resort during June school holidays and the rest wanted to follow after discussing for three months.

I heaved a sigh of relief seeing them discuss and finally reach a conclusion on which hotel to stay in after 12 hours.

However, I still don’t understand why they need so much time to book a room for five people to squeeze in and then get into arguments with the hotel for not allowing five people in a room paid for two.

I hate to think that this has something to do with being stay at home mums with all the time in the world but I realised most of them are not.

I like and miss these mummies when we don’t meet. I get tired of them when we meet so frequently. What is wrong with me?

Maybe I should enlarge my mummy circle and start looking for other mummies group to spread out my attention a little.

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No. Yes, but I Don’t Want To

How do people accept no as an answer. No matter how hard I tried I get affected.

I used to be so good in sales that if it’s a no I move on. No hard feelings, no love lost.

In real estate, I don’t push. I don’t pressure. I share and I don’t believe in making people I know over leveraging themselves. Then I realised I was just a free information counter.

There is a USD 1K budget for everyone to upgrade their work related stuffs.

Big Boss said:

No you can’t have the Bose headphones

No you can’t get the ergo office chair

No

No

No

I ended up not getting much out of it.

Recently, I felt overwhelmed with full time work, property and my event’s management business.

I felt the anxiety creeping upon me.

Let it go.

No, I’m exhausted but I only have 24 hours a day.

Take a break.

No. Before I know it, an unproductive half a day is gone. I ended up having to play catch up and made mistakes trying to do so.

Shall we go for a short holiday?

No. We have to save up.

My mood is down.

I want to eat salted grill fish by the roadside in Bangkok.

I want to eat without getting fatter.

I want to do a 5 hour spa in Batam.

I want to play the whole night at a casino in any of the locations- Genting/ Phnom Penh / Macau / Sydney.

I want to pick blueberry at my favourite homestay in Stockholm. I think outdoors will be good for my overall health.

I want to stay home and still have an income.

The only reason why I am down is because I was hoping someone can do things with me.

Can I do them alone? Yes I can but I don’t want to.

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