Category Archives: Romance

Adult, life, Relationship, Romance, Sex

Awkward

Not that long ago, I knowingly attended a wedding where my ex boyfriend would be.

Today, I attended a baby full month where I know he will be around as well.

The wedding wasn’t awkward at all but the baby full month celebration was.

I reminded my husband to make an effort to dress nicer this morning. He would be in army shorts and tee and flip flops if he has a choice.

It was not awkward at all with my friend’s mum who only spoke Cantonese. Of all tables, my husband chose to sit beside my friend’s in laws.

I was not feeling my best with a runny nose and popping antihistamine and I rotated between two function rooms since I was feeling hot.

Deliberately not making a conversation is awkward for me I wanted to make a dash before the ex boyfriend arrives since my son has lessons nearby, but the rascal decided to take his own sweet time to eat.

Another awkward nod in acknowledgment when our eyes met… He was standing near my husband and son for quite a while and I didn’t want to go over to hurry them.

They probably didn’t know they were sperm brothers. 😂

Sigh. I am contemplating to stop attending my friend’s child life events to avoid such situations in future.

Why am I spending time, money and effort on these? For now, I just want to lie down flat and sleep.

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No Effort No Mood No Sex

“Very long never do already,” the husband lamented.

“When you want to give me?” He asked again.

Irritated, I told him whenever he decided to put in effort in the relationship and when I am satisfied then he will be getting it.

A nice meal? You mean order via food delivery platform what I want to eat or food from the nearby coffeeshop? Not even a nice cafe. Seriously….

Date nights? Last planned one by him was in 2022. Most recent one a few months back was me doing the booking.

Gifts on special occasions? Nil.

Random one? Don’t even think about it.

Why is date night out of the picture after marriage and kid?

I love my child but bringing kiddo along everywhere is not a date.

Telling me the money is all with me is rubbish because you do have your own credit cards right?

Aware of the simple stuff but yet not willing to put in effort.

Do men ever remember the effort they used to put in when chasing after their woman? Fine, blowjobs, foreplay and sex can stop then.

No effort, no mood, no sex.

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Adult, Culture, life, Relationship, Romance, Thoughts

Bottom Line

A week after elections, everything is back to where it was.

Never mind the allegations, accusations and juicy news that surfaced.

Singapore has spoken. The ruling party and opposition parties retained their seats and there will be no changes in the next five years.

The relationship Singaporeans have with the ruling party is codependent.

Singaporeans are like the helpless women in a relationship who depend on their men to provide and lead.

Along the way, the woman may be unhappy and complained to the whole wide world but still chose to stay in the relationship after so much trauma.

Why? A relationship takes years to build and it is not easy to let go. Few left, some gave ultimatum, many gave another chance but much more stayed because nobody likes changes and, change may not necessarily be better.

Not everyone has the courage to pack and leave.

All I wanted to do is to stay home, look after my child and watch him grow up but I still need to study, upskill, work and try to look for the next higher paying job if I don’t get retrenched in the next five years.

Sigh, this is the reality of a Singaporean woman.

What will Singapore be like in 20 years time?

Will I be able to retire comfortably?

Will it still be prosperous and our little red passport still be sought after when my son grows up?

Be it complains from the ground or complains from friends of their other half, I am so tired of people who complain but did nothing to change their situation.

Every time, it looked promising that you are changing the situation for the better but then you go back again.

How many more times are you going to forgive after knowing you have been screwed over again and again?

How can you blame the dominant party for taking you for granted and treating you like a fool? You have to realise somewhere along the line, it happened because you allowed it to.

What is your bottom line in this relationship?

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