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Awkward

Not that long ago, I knowingly attended a wedding where my ex boyfriend would be.

Today, I attended a baby full month where I know he will be around as well.

The wedding wasn’t awkward at all but the baby full month celebration was.

I reminded my husband to make an effort to dress nicer this morning. He would be in army shorts and tee and flip flops if he has a choice.

It was not awkward at all with my friend’s mum who only spoke Cantonese. Of all tables, my husband chose to sit beside my friend’s in laws.

I was not feeling my best with a runny nose and popping antihistamine and I rotated between two function rooms since I was feeling hot.

Deliberately not making a conversation is awkward for me I wanted to make a dash before the ex boyfriend arrives since my son has lessons nearby, but the rascal decided to take his own sweet time to eat.

Another awkward nod in acknowledgment when our eyes met… He was standing near my husband and son for quite a while and I didn’t want to go over to hurry them.

They probably didn’t know they were sperm brothers. 😂

Sigh. I am contemplating to stop attending my friend’s child life events to avoid such situations in future.

Why am I spending time, money and effort on these? For now, I just want to lie down flat and sleep.

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No Effort No Mood No Sex

“Very long never do already,” the husband lamented.

“When you want to give me?” He asked again.

Irritated, I told him whenever he decided to put in effort in the relationship and when I am satisfied then he will be getting it.

A nice meal? You mean order via food delivery platform what I want to eat or food from the nearby coffeeshop? Not even a nice cafe. Seriously….

Date nights? Last planned one by him was in 2022. Most recent one a few months back was me doing the booking.

Gifts on special occasions? Nil.

Random one? Don’t even think about it.

Why is date night out of the picture after marriage and kid?

I love my child but bringing kiddo along everywhere is not a date.

Telling me the money is all with me is rubbish because you do have your own credit cards right?

Aware of the simple stuff but yet not willing to put in effort.

Do men ever remember the effort they used to put in when chasing after their woman? Fine, blowjobs, foreplay and sex can stop then.

No effort, no mood, no sex.

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Mother Says 07: 快点嫁 Faster Get Married

快点嫁 (get married fast)

快点搬出去（move out fast)

That was how I was given pressure to get married so I can move out.

In Singapore, most of us only move out after getting married. Marriage was an escape.

妈妈，我结了两次都不太好。你为什么你一直叫我结婚？

I wished I have the courage to ask my mother why she kept asking me to get married when she made out her own to be so miserable. My dad was made out to be a MCP and poor af in the first 10 years of marriage.

Any MCP would be deeply humbled after four female offspring’s and my parents are living off rental income from their second property on top of pension and investments and savings so yeah, what a failure their lives are.

Recently, her stand slowly changed to just date, no need to get married.

“Look at cousin so and so, go holiday, go Pak tor (dating) happy can already,” she commented.

Yah lor, 结婚有什么好？你为什么一直叫我们结婚？

“So and so dated for 13 years and they are still not married,” she commented.

Hello, they met when they were only 17! They happy can already so what’s the issue?

At this day and age, marriage is no longer a necessity especially when women have the means to support themselves.

Why did I get married the second time?

If men think with their dick, I probably think with my puss. Finally a lot of good sex, NOT.

Dating period was the best stage in any of my relationships.

The only justification was I wanted my own children and I did not want to have them out of wedlock. Singapore is not friendly to unwed women.

My child brought me lots of joy but I can’t say the same for my marriages.

If I can choose again, I don’t think I want to get married and have a child again.

I will just concentrate on my career, date and fuck whoever I fancy and may the guys’ age remain.

Hey elders, let people be lah. There are no benefits for a Singaporean woman to get married.

You can look after so many kids without domestic help in the past because you don’t need to work.

We still have to slog at work, play office politics, split household expenses, do the chores, be filial and take care of both sets of parents, look after kids that don’t even carry our last name and sometimes don’t even look like us.

Get married to suffer? You better think twice before you give any engagement to get married.

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